Friday, August 4, 2017

Why Kindness Matters



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A couple of years ago my colleague and friend Beverly Kay shared this with a group of teachers online.  It is such a thought provoking message that it should be shared on our kindness blog:

"Recently I had a short stint in hospital. It always blows me away how people can dedicate their lives to helping people like me reach their full health potential. In fact a fair whack of cash, and precious hours of doctors, nurses, and a raft of other medical personal, has been dedicated to ensuring I get to leave hospital fit and healthy to live the life I want to live. Thats very humbling.
So first and foremost I want to thank those who have so kindly cared for me.

The health system has many similar characteristics to the education system. It if full of people there to help people.  Helping people reach their full potential. To ensure this is done as efficiently, effectively and as successfully as possible - there are systems, procedures, policies in place for the smooth running of a hospital.

And there-in lies the rub.

As part of my recovery process I was encouraged to walk around and around the ward many times a day. Similar to many ECEs and Schools, the ward displayed its philosophy of care on the walls. Alongside this was a list of roles that medical team on that ward saw as important parts of their job. There was also what appeared to be a list of reminders about how these roles should be carried out. There was an anagram - I think it was PEEK - and it started with Pop-In “Have you popped in to see your patient and asked them how they are doing.”

I had many nurses “Pop-In” and ask “How are you doing today Beverly?” - which was nice. I could see they were fulfilling their ‘role’ and some connection was made. And then there were other nurses. They breezed in with wonderful smiles on their faces, chatted about the photos of my family I had on the wall, drew my attention to the sun shining through the window, and paused at my bedside with the look that said “I’m here for you”. And I knew that these nurses cared. 

They truly cared. The doctors and nurses who walked into my room with a genuine smile, looked me in the eye, greeted me and introduced themselves; who shared with me the reason for their visit, commented on my photos, shared a laugh, listened to my stories; who had kindness in their eyes - they were there because they truly wanted to help me and cared.

People approaching us with kindness makes a huge difference to how we feel about ourselves, how we feel about them, how we feel about the next few moments of time.

Kindness and truly caring matter. They matter in health. They matter everywhere.

It might pay to consider our own situation - is Kindness something written or described on the wall as part of our role or philosophy, or is it something that lives within us and manifests itself through every interaction we have with children and families?

Wendy Lee lives and breathes kindness, so I am confident to quote her on this subject because it is not just words - there is a huge amount of thoughtfulness and caring behind these words. “For me kindness is really at the heart of all we do. ‘Kindness is at the heart of the matter’. Manaakitanga is an important value for all of us (respecting others – their differences, showing hospitality, kindness, friendship, nurturing and care for everyone). Piero Ferrucci argues that it is this trait that will not only lead to our own individual happiness and the happiness of those around us, but has the potential to strengthen powerfully the relationships that surround us. 

I thought I'd add John Sweeny's Ted talk to this. His website states "Unless you're too busy breathing, you're never too busy to be kind."

What does kindness feel like in you?"
  

Wednesday, August 2, 2017


TE WHEKE KAMAATU THE OCTOPUS OF GREAT WISDOM
Dr Rangimarie Turuki Rose Pere CBE

One of the dimensions that Dr Pere talks about to assess wellbeing relates to emotions and senses. She talks about Babies, and children who have not been programmed by the State or Religion, can “read” us, and let us know exactly what they think and feel about us, they have "intuitive intelligence"

Are we the kind teacher who has time to listen and to 'be' with children, is 'aroha' embedded in our actions with whanau, tamariki and colleagues?

Wednesday, February 8, 2017


It is important to give thanks for each day, there is so much research now into the power of gratitude. For example there is scientific evidence that by practising gratitude we can create some important biological changes, such as a decrease in cortisol and stress levels. Gratitude will boost our energy on so many levels and create a more positive and enthusiastic outlook on life.

Amit Amin has a blog and has written about ‘The 31 Benefits of Gratitude You Didn’t Know About: How Gratitude Can Change Your Life’…


He has developed this graphic listing all the benefits of gratitude that he compiled from the results of more than 40 research studies on gratitude. Check out his full blog 
http://happierhuman.com/benefits-of-gratitude/


Friday, April 22, 2016

20 Random Acts of Kindness

Stephanie Dowick writes in her book 'Everyday Kindness'...

"Kindness will build our resilience and positivity, as well as concern for ourselves and others. It will protect us against the self-doubt and self-pity that would otherwise sap our strength. It will radically enhance our connections with others and our awareness of our capacity to give generously - and repeat the benefits that come with this. Bring kindness into the bigger picture of our lives will wake up and utilize our powers to choose, and to choose wisely and well. It will make us much easier to like and to love.
Our acts of kindness toward other people also depend on our consciousness of choice, and a willingness to take charge of our attitudes and actions. Those acts of kindness demonstrate a life-changing awareness that other people matter."

Make a commitment now to embed 20 random acts of kindness in your life this month. Encourage the children in your setting to do this and make it visible in your documentation. Demonstrate to everyone around you that kindness is valued. If we privilege kindness your life and the lives of others around you will flourish. Take the initiative and create a kinder world. 



Friday, March 11, 2016

Make unhappy children happy again


Last week I sent 3 cards by snail mail (happy post) to three unknown children in hospitals. I wanted to give ill or sick children a smile, even if it was just for one second.



I want them to be strong again, fight and to win this battle. I hope I've given those children some hope, love and a moment of happines, with joy.  
Maybe this is an idea that could be developed. Just sending small gifts of toys or items that young children could play with in bed. Sending things to the children's ward wrapped nicely to give children a little surprise. 
It might even be something that could be done for others in hospital as well... I think it has many possibilities!!!!!


You can see more kind stories on this site - http://www.kindspring.org
 

Just a moment of your time



Today I had the pleasure of visiting I saw this lovely lady, Olga. She doesn't speak very much, and our conversations are never deep. But it doesn't matter. What matters is that I'm there, holding her hand listening. She isn't alone. So many elderly are alone and living in convalescent homes.

They may have latest technology; tvs, all the latest gadgets, much like Olga's brand new establishment. But you know what? None of it means anything to them. All they want is company. All they want it for someone to care and to show them they matter.

People often say what I do is kind and so great. It really isn't. I do nothing special at all. I just turn up, and by doing so it shows I care. It shows she means something to me.
 
And she does. I took this photo today because sometimes I don't know what to do. I feed her biscuits, attempt conversation and when really stuck, pull out my phone and take photos. Today I did all three. It doesn't take much to show someone you care. It only asks that you be there.
 Story from www.kindspring.org

Today I had the pleasure of visiting I saw this lovely lady, Olga. She doesn't speak very much, and our conversations are never deep. But it doesn't matter. What matters is that I'm there, holding her hand listening. She isn't alone. So many elderly are alone and living in convalescent homes.

They may have latest technology;

tvs, all the latest gadgets, much like Olga's brand new establishment. But you know what? None of it means anything to them. All they want is company. All they want it for someone to care and to show them they matter.

People often say what I do is kind and so great. It really isn't. I do nothing special at all. I just turn up, and by doing so it shows I care. It shows she means something to me.

And she does. I took this photo today because sometimes I don't know what to do. I feed her biscuits, attempt conversation and when really stuck, pull out my phone and take photos. Today I did all three. It doesn't take much to show someone you care. It only asks that you be there <3 - See more at: http://www.kindspring.org/story/view.php?sid=107466#sthash.F3I089Xp.dpuf
Today I had the pleasure of visiting I saw this lovely lady, Olga. She doesn't speak very much, and our conversations are never deep. But it doesn't matter. What matters is that I'm there, holding her hand listening. She isn't alone. So many elderly are alone and living in convalescent homes.

They may have latest technology;

tvs, all the latest gadgets, much like Olga's brand new establishment. But you know what? None of it means anything to them. All they want is company. All they want it for someone to care and to show them they matter.

People often say what I do is kind and so great. It really isn't. I do nothing special at all. I just turn up, and by doing so it shows I care. It shows she means something to me.

And she does. I took this photo today because sometimes I don't know what to do. I feed her biscuits, attempt conversation and when really stuck, pull out my phone and take photos. Today I did all three. It doesn't take much to show someone you care. It only asks that you be there <3 - See more at: http://www.kindspring.org/story/view.php?sid=107466#sthash.F3I089Xp.dpuf
Today I had the pleasure of visiting I saw this lovely lady, Olga. She doesn't speak very much, and our conversations are never deep. But it doesn't matter. What matters is that I'm there, holding her hand listening. She isn't alone. So many elderly are alone and living in convalescent homes.

They may have latest technology;

tvs, all the latest gadgets, much like Olga's brand new establishment. But you know what? None of it means anything to them. All they want is company. All they want it for someone to care and to show them they matter.

People often say what I do is kind and so great. It really isn't. I do nothing special at all. I just turn up, and by doing so it shows I care. It shows she means something to me.

And she does. I took this photo today because sometimes I don't know what to do. I feed her biscuits, attempt conversation and when really stuck, pull out my phone and take photos. Today I did all three. It doesn't take much to show someone you care. It only asks that you be there <3 - See more at: http://www.kindspring.org/story/view.php?sid=107466#sthash.F3I089Xp.dpuf